I accepted it as was. I try not to judge people for what turns them on. In my mind, someone who understood this desire and could talk about it openly probably isn’t the problem — and, I didn’t really find this guy rapey at all.

I’m more concerned about people who have similar feelings, but deny them. They’re far more likely to act them out in subconscious ways. To be like “I have this totally fucked up turn on that I masturbate about sometimes but would never enact” is like — ok in my book. However, I assume other men have similar feelings that they don’t admit even to themselves, and those are the ones I’m afraid of.

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